There is an ongoing discussion between G and I about selling the townhouse and moving into a detached house with a proper yard. It’s a complicated issue and, as I’ve worked on a draft blog post about it, I have realized that there is more involved than just the physical domicile.
There are three overriding issues, the first of which is space.
I’m hardly a hoarder but I do dream of having china for every season and occasion, every appliance and kitchen gadget in the Williams-Sonoma catalogue, and acres of clothes and shoes.
So I want space, ideally 3,500 square feet with 42″ tall kitchen cabinets, a butler’s pantry, and a big storage room and cedar closet in the basement.
G makes organizations ‘lean’ for a living – he ‘adds value by reducing everything else’ in multi-faceted manufacturing facilities. All of that professional experience has not necessarily translated into a lean or well organized home space, so he bought a book to spur one or the other of us to action. We flew to Chicago last weekend and rather than spend my travel time playing endless games of Bubble Witch Saga on my iPad, I started reading the book.
This book may just transform my life.
I get excited about holidays to fun places (and maybe Daniel Craig) .. but I do not have an increased heart rate or flushed skin when thinking about tidying up. After reading this book I so want to start on this project right.this.second that I almost called in sick yesterday so I could start putting Marie Kondo’s suggestions into practice. No joke.
In very simple terms, Marie Kondo walks you through her KonMari Method of organizing and tidying along with the why’s and how’s of getting rid of possessions of every sort so that you can focus on the life you want to live, and the things you choose to live with.
You surround yourself with the things that bring you joy.
Imagine yourself living in a space that contains only things that spark joy. Isn’t this the lifestyle you dream of?
As I said earlier, I’m not a hoarder. When we married and I moved to the States I brought exactly two suitcases, nine boxes containing all my worldly belongings, and one very special white kitty cat. Since then I’ve acquired a lot of stuff (as has G), most of which I never look at, or can’t get to because it’s in the attic or garage behind a stack of crap. G grew up in a very tough financial environment so he treasures everything he has and hates to discard anything with any monetary value.
The KonMari Method provides a step-by-method of reviewing your possessions, discarding, then storing, and even focuses on specifics such as clothes, photographs, books, kitchen items, makeup samples … real things that fill real people’s drawers and closets. Unlike some of the “fix your mess in 30 minutes” tv shows, she honours items that have a place in our heart, but also provides solutions and a rationale for bidding goodbye. What was thought-provoking for me was her philosophy on gifts from others. I love my family to pieces but sometimes they give me things that just don’t fit my life or my habitat. It seems heartless and almost rude to give those things away. Kondo proposes recognizing that the item has served its purpose (expressing the giver’s love to you), and it may now be released. Interesting … and freeing.
It’s going to rain this weekend, so I believe I am going to tackle step one – my clothes. Until Saturday, I am going to envision how I want to live my life and what type of environment will bring me joy.
Think I feel a tickle in my throat … maybe I’ll have to stay home tomorrow?